Stuffed animal looking hurt

Physical Abuse:

  • Aggressive behaviours directed at another person’s body such as pushing, pinching, squeezing, shaking, grabbing, biting, hitting, slapping, choking, kicking, throwing objects at or near partner, murder

  • More often overt than other forms of abuse

  • Behaviours are used to make the victim feel powerless and gain control

Sexual Abuse:

  • Forced participation in any type of sexual activity

  • Birth control sabotage or control over using birth control/protection

  • Forced into sex work

  • Sexual assault

  • Reproductive coercion


  • Infliction of emotional pain and suffering by doing things to control or degrade

  • Persistent verbal attacks on self-esteem

  • Repeated accusations of infidelity

  • Threats of suicide, threats to harm others, threats to take children

  • Not allowing access to basic needs

  • Ignoring partners feelings

  • Insulting or making fun of partner’s values, beliefs, religion, class, etc

  • Calling names, putting person down

  • Yelling at them constantly

  • Continually criticizing the person

  • Refusing to socialize with people important to their partner

  • Regularly threatening to leave or telling partner to leave

  • Making the other person feel bad about themselves; making them thinks they are crazy, playing mind games

Financial Abuse:

  • Having no access to money

  • No control over how money is spent, what can be bought

  • No money for personal use

  • Not allowed to work or must give all earnings to the abuser

  • Misusing partner’s name for financial reasons

  • Assigning an allowance

  • All bank accounts are in abusers name; not allowed own personal bank account

  • Forced to sign documents against their will such as taxes, immigration papers, etc.

  • Controlling financial independence and freedom of the other person

Other Ways Abuse Can Happen:

  • Using intimidation to control the other person: Making them afraid by using looks, actions, gestures, smashing things, destroying their property, displaying weapons.

  • Using isolation: Controlling what they do, who they see, where they go, what they read, limiting outside involvement, using jealousy to justify actions.

  • Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming: Making light of the abuse and not taking the other persons concerns about it seriously, saying the abuse didn’t happen, shifting responsibility for abusive behaviours, victim blaming.

  • Abuse towards pets or property: Destruction of property or animals with the explicit or implicit threat that “she is next.”

  • Using children: Making them feel guilty about the children, using the children to keep the person there, using the children to relay messages, using visitations to harass the other person, threatening to take the children away.

  • Using coercion and threats: Making and/or carrying out threats to harm a person, threatening to leave, to commit suicide if they leave, to report her, making the other person do illegal things, making them drop charges.

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